Eleven Reasons Why Marriages Fail… 

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September 22, 2016 by Levi Dominic

​Who wants their marriage to fail anyways? Let me see your hands up, anybody? Somebody?

Okay, so below is a list, look at it as a KPI for your relationship. If too many of the things listed below are too often a part of your life, errrr change your ways oh if you dont want to end up in the pit.

1. You work more on your wedding than on your marriage. You spend hundreds of hours planning and preparing for your wedding—the venue, the dress, the guest list, the bridesmaids, the groomsmen, the ceremony, the vows—but choose not to spend time planning and preparing on growing your marriage.

2. You believe that marriage is a contract. Even though you don’t say it, you really believe that marriage is a transaction between two people, a contract and not a covenant. You have the mindset that most things in your relationship are negotiated—”If you do this, then and only then I will do that.” You think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership rather than a 100/100 give-it-all-you’ve-got relationship.

3. You are not trustworthy. You cannot be trusted by your spouse when you don’t speak the truth at all times, you keep secrets or you don’t do what you say you’ll do.

4. You always put your kids first. You pour all of your time, energy, attention and affection into your children. You give them your freshest and best and always serve your spouse leftovers.

5. You give in to temptation. You talk about your personal pressures and problems with another person besides your spouse. You feel like the other person empathizes and understands you better. Instead of running from this temptation, you run toward it and end up in an intimate emotional or physical relationship.

6. You always expect your spouse to change. You see your spouse’s faults and failures every day. It’s really irritating and frustrating you. They’re messy, they’re lazy, they nag you, they don’t help with the kids, they’re always at work. You think you’ve done all the changing, and they haven’t done a thing.

7. You treat your spouse like the enemy. You think they are on the opposing team so you keep a marital scorecard. You keep track of who spends more, disciplines more, does the dishes more, cleans more, mows more and works more. And you become bitter and resent your spouse for not helping enough or for having more fun.

8. Your words constantly tear your spouse down. You’re sarcastic, not supportive, disrespectful, comparing words are toxins of the tongue that poison your marriage.

9. You don’t respect your spouse. You don’t respect your spouse’s judgment. You constantly question their decisions and abilities.

10. You fail to ask for forgiveness and forgive. Your spouse says you hurt them. You don’t see that you did anything wrong, so you’re not going to apologize. They get bitter. You get bitter.

11. You listen to foolish marriage advice. You listen to well-intended but foolish advice about your relationship from a “friend” who wants you to join their man-hater or woman-hater club rather than listening to wise advice from a trusted source.

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